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Naked Love, Defiant Courage, Salty Grace

June 6, 2017 by judithb 12 Comments

Love written in chalk at the Hollywood MAX memorial

It was a rough week for Portland and me after two brave men were killed standing up to a bully on the MAX transit line just blocks from my home.

As has been the case too often of late, I had to scramble to find a way to keep my heart soft and my hopes high. It is so tempting to either rage or simply shut down against the daily dark news but it doesn’t really help, does it?

Two things galloped to my rescue—
a photo and a quote.

The photo from the local paper was taken at the vigil held the day after the murders. Here was the mother of one of the slain heroes kneeling with a radiant smile beside a young Muslim girl wearing a hijab. The image spoke louder than words. It was a girl wearing a hijab that enflamed the White Supremacist who killed her son. I was inspired by that image. If she could choose love, certainly I could as well.

Message in chalk on the stairs at Hollywood MAX memorial

And then there was the too-early death of Brian Doyle, a wonderful, whimsical Portland writer.

It was because of his death that his words appeared in my inbox and I marveled once again at his ability to delight and inspire me in one fell swoop.

It was a single phrase.

It caught me as completely as had the photo of the radiant mother modeling love.

You bring your naked love and defiant courage and salty grace to bear as much as you can.

—Brian Doyle

I deeply understand his words for I embraced those very qualities as I fought for the women and children in South Africa. Their needs were so palpable, there was such urgency to everything from a new roof for the weaving studio to help with Eulender’s school fees to a door for the nursery school. The women of Mapusha and their community captured all of me for fifteen years and it was an exhilarating, exhausting, expanding ride.

    Now, living in laid-back, cozy Portland once again—

  • I’ve struggled to find my voice,
  • Get over the shyness of publishing a memoir,
  • Let go of my African world
  • And allow my beloved Mapusha women to move forward on their own.

This MAX tragedy so close rattled and awoke me in some essential way. Enough with solitude and futzing with words.

I am a voice standing to help find our way through and beyond the separations and divisions, the hatred and violence.

I am a voice standing to help find our way through and beyond the separations and divisions, the hatred and violence.

Mr. Roger’s mother advised him when scary news happened to look for the helpers. I am standing up, stepping forth as an earnest and bonafide helper. I want to join with others to explore how to move it forwards, what it looks like when defiant courage and salty grace lead the way.

I honor the brave men who stood up against hate last week and I thank them for inspiring me to stand myself with naked love for this world of ours and its people.

Join me!

Of course you do your absolute best to find and hone and wield your divine gifts against the dark. You do your best to reach out tenderly to touch and elevate as many people as you can reach. You bring your naked love and defiant courage and salty grace to bear as much as you can, with all the attentiveness and humor you can muster; this is, after all, a miracle in which we live, and we ought to pay ferocious attention every moment, if possible.

—Brian Doyle
I am, as of this moment, out of the closet...

I am, as of this moment, out of the closet as an inspirational speaker. Do you know anywhere I can speak? Have a group you’d liked help to inspire?

As I continue to coach and lead support groups, I am also considering a once a month yoga class to help create community. If you are interested, email me.

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Comments

  1. MaryJo Andersen says

    June 6, 2017 at 3:14 pm

    Yes, to yoga or anything with you! I’ve been going to Yoga Refuge in Montavilla – beautiful space! Maybe you can rent there?

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    • judithb says

      June 18, 2017 at 1:48 am

      So nice to hear your e-voice. Must set up a time for me to come visit you two. I am working on a monthly yoga class – what time could you make it if it was a Sunday? I know you work……

      Reply
  2. david says

    June 6, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    Great piece Judy…

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    • judithb says

      June 18, 2017 at 1:48 am

      I learned so much from you!

      Reply
  3. Helene says

    June 7, 2017 at 8:04 am

    What beautiful and inspiring words Judy – you express yourself in such a heartfelt, true and powerful way. Am so glad that you are finding a way to spread the aspiration of naked love, defiant courage and salty grace through being an inspirational speaker – wish I lived closer so that I could join you!

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    • judithb says

      June 18, 2017 at 1:49 am

      Wish we lived closer as well. Miss you and don’t think I will make it back until you are in Nels. BUT I will find you for our visit. xo

      Reply
  4. Tonya says

    June 7, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    Beautiful. I wish I had more words. I’m with MJ, yes to yoga. Yes to love.

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    • judithb says

      June 18, 2017 at 1:52 am

      And how I love my Tonya painting. Birds are always symbols of hope! When would you like a monthly 2 hour yoga class?

      Reply
  5. judithb says

    June 26, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    Great!

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  6. judithb says

    June 28, 2017 at 11:19 am

    I am so glad you enjoy my blogs. I don’t really have other blogs to suggest but will keep my eyes open.

    Reply
  7. college education says

    June 29, 2017 at 8:12 am

    Greetings! I’ve been reading your weblog for some time now and finally got the courage to go ahead and give you a shout out from Humble Tx! Just wanted to mention keep up the great job!

    Reply
    • judithb says

      June 29, 2017 at 8:36 am

      Thanks so much for the shout out from Humble.

      Reply

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From Judy…

Here I am once again in friendly, green Portland, Oregon, after fourteen years of community development work in South Africa.

My book, Hand Spun Hope, Making a Difference in Rural South Africa, is available on Amazon.

My Life Coaching practice is in full swing and enlivened by the lessons gleaned from my time in South Africa—trust and risk and then trust and risk again! My focus is on listening to your own inner wisdom, letting your hopes fly wide and then, bringing them into the world with action.

I am an inspirational speaker and appreciate any opportunity to share my message of hope and inspire you into action.

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